Manic Manifesting

When we first hear about the Law of Attraction, I think we are all enticed by the prospect of getting and having whatever we should want to. “Cool! Now I’m finally gonna win that Lottery!”

I see a lot of people stay hooked on manifesting. They obsessively keep trying to manifest all sorts of things. However Law of Attraction doesn’t respond to our words, or actions. Law of Attraction only responds to our vibration, to whatever we emit from ourselves. And we are only able to vibrate or emit, what we believe is possible in this life.

By trying to manically manifest things into our lives, we will do ourselves more harm than good. So just stop and ask yourself, why on Earth do I want, whatever it is, that I want. Am I trying to impress others, show them how far I have gone, or do I perhaps just want the feeling of security, freedom, or joyfulness? In the end it is always the feeling we are after, not the stuff itself. That is extra.

First of all our beliefs limit profoundly, how we are able to vibrate. We cannot be or have anything, we think is impossible for us, or in general. Our beliefs are a big stumbling block, and we don’t even notice them at times. EFT or Tapping is an easy way to show us our limiting beliefs and gently remove them. (see my post on 22nd June, 2016 on EFT in http://www.merjasuomela.wordpress.com/2016/06 (second one when scrolling down))

Secondly everything in this Universe is two things: the wanted and the lack of it. It is possible, that we focus on the things we want the wrong way around. If we are more focused on the lack, Law of Attraction will match us up with more lack. To find out which side we are more focused on, we have to pay close attention to how we feel, when we think, visualize and talk about the things we want. Lack makes us always feel bad, or constricted, as allowing on the other hand makes us feel good, eager, happy, or joyful even.

Thirdly we can limit Law of Attraction all by ourselves. By thinking and visualizing, that the only way, we can have for example extra money, is the lottery, we are in fact limiting our options of getting it. We are shutting countless doors, by which our extra money could come to us.

In the end, if we feel that particular feeling we are after, does it really matter, how it came? If it came that specific way we ourselves wanted it to come, or some other possible way?

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Negative Feelings

Life consists of ordinary days: some of which are good and some of which are not. There will be things, that will make us happy and over the moon. Then there will be others we could simply do without. We don’t get to choose, which ones we are going to have, we only get to choose, how to react to them. There is ebb and flow in life and also in our days.

We are not always at our best. We are also allowed to be vulnerable, powerless, at loss, or even sad and unhappy at times. There is no shame in that. That is called full human life. There is no shame even in crying, when we feel like it. Because how would we know, when we are happy, if we never were unhappy.

Bottling up these bad feelings and pretending to be happy, when we are not, makes our whole body suffer the consequences. Our bodies never lie to us. They show us exactly, how we feel minute to minute. These bottled up feelings tend to cause resistance, that shows itself as tension and stress in our bodies, and in the end even as aches and pains and disease.

It is much more proactive to admit to ourselves, what our true feelings are. Then try to find a way to release them: cry, if you feel like it, shout in the shower, beat your pillow, or go for a walk or a run. Nature has many healing qualities, so a walk/run in the forest can solve and calm many of our feelings.

When things happen, that are not to your liking, remember, that you are not a bad person, if you have negative feelings about them. Just admit your feelings, find a proactive way to release them, and move on.

There is plenty of good in everything and in every day. So if you can’t find the silver lining in what you are living at the moment, concentrate on the good things, that you can find, that are in your life. Enjoy, whatever you can.

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New World

Every day we wake up, we get to have an awesome present: a brand new day, that none of us has ever lived before. We are unspeakably lucky to have this. Every new day is a new beginning for us, a chance to start again.

We are so prone to see all the negativity in this world, in every situation, and in every single day, that we don’t recognize the immensity of what we truly have in a new day. This poor habit is blinding us for this precious gift, that we get to have every single morning, when we wake up.

Every new day, that we wake up to, invites us to make the most of that particular day. Every new morning offers us the opportunity to let go of the yesterday, leave it behind, and begin again. Every day we get to choose, how we want that day to go, and what we want to do. We have the choice.

I am ever so grateful for each and every day I get to wake up to, for every new sunrise and sunset. The world is brand new every single morning, so full of possibilities and potential. I am immensely blessed with each new day, that I get to have and live. I humbly accept every morning as a gift, and every morning before getting up I bless the day by making a list of things I am grateful for. Every morning it makes the day seem even more precious.

To make the most of your life see every day for what it is: an invaluable gift for a new beginning. No matter what has happened yesterday, or wherever you are, you get to start again today, right now. Therefore bless your every morning with gratitude and watch you life change for the better.

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My Path

Life has a habit of throwing unexpected twist and turns upon us. Mostly when we least expect it. Like a rollercoaster. We only get a choice to enjoy the ride or be terrified.

I thouhgt, that my life was going straight forward, maybe a small dream to dream and fulfill every now and then, but otherwise like a straight road, no twists or turns or even crossroads. A path so straightforward it might even feel a little bit of boring. And then Life threw a curveball.

How we survive these curveballs, or challenges, defines us. We can either fight them with all our strength and energy and get absolutely nowhere. Or we can accept the inevitable, at which we don’t have any say to, and move on. This is the only choice we get make.

I myself have accepted, that not everything is always working out to my liking, but anything can still work for my highest good. I can learn something new from every experience, that comes my way, and be happy no matter what happens in this life of mine.

I have understood, that this is my only life, and it is up to me to make the most of it. To enjoy the ride and experience whatever joy and happiness I can while on it. And I encourage  everyone to do the same: to accept the inevitable in one’s life and make the most of it anyway. It it the only way to true fulfilment and happiness.

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Surrender

This has been a recurring theme for me lately. I have come across articles, blogs and videos about these subjects: release, detach, surrender. A blog by Gabby Bernstein made a huge impact. She has a powerful story and 5 steps to give in this subject. And I thought, that I was well on my way on this! I had only been taking baby steps into this direction. Upon pondering those words they now have a new meaning to me. Let me explain, what these tree words mean to me:

Releasing means to me letting go of that, which doesn’t serve me anymore, whether it be a person, a thing, a habit or something else. There is a time for everything: a beginning and an end. It is sometimes very hard for us human beings to let go, to release. We cling to people and stuff and most of all old habits like our lives depended on them. It is healthy to understand, that everything runs its course: first we need the lessons these things/persons can give us and then we don’t anymore. The right thing then is to release them, to let them go to the next person, who can use them. We ourselves are better off without.

Detaching means to me, that I separate myself and my happiness from the outcome of any event in my life. It means, that whatever the outcome is, I can still be happy. It doesn’t mean inactivity by any means. It just means, that the activity is not made for a certain result to happen, but for my own highest good and happiness. We humans tend to have many things going on in our lives. We have wishes, hopes and desires. We can only be free, if we detach ourselves and our happiness from the end result of our actions. We can be truly happy, if any action we make is only made for our own highest good.

Surrender means to me giving up on my own timetables, letting everything take its own course. Surrendering is a beautiful thing. It is like saying to the Universe/God/All-That-Is, or whatever we call it, “I trust you and your timing.” We can only see a very limited portion of time and space, while Universe/God/All-That-Is can see everything. Wanting for something to happen doesn’t make this the right time or place for it. Surrendering means to trust Life. It means to trust, that everything and anything in our lives is only happening to our highest good and benefit.

You, too, if you want to live in total freedom and happiness, will have to release that, which no longer serves you, detach your happiness from the outcome of you actions, and surrender. It is the only way. And as Gabby Bernstein says it: When you think you’ve surrendered, surrender more.

For further reading Gabby’s blog and video to go with it: https://gabbybernstein.com/new-blog-super-soul-sessions-talk-5-steps-spiritual-surrender/

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Weight of The World

I have always prided myself for being tough, having the strength to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders, if need be. Now that I would really need that strength, it seems to have gone though, lost in time and space. Like I am an empty shell, that is supposed to contain something, but it doesn’t. I am soft and mellow, no strength at all to be found.

When we came to this Earth, we intended to have a full human experience, to feel every emotion there is, not deeming something bad or inappropriate. We intended to have them all, not just one range of the spectrum. The world would look pretty sad place, if, say, blue was considered bad, and we did all we could to avoid it.

We have to give ourselves permission to feel all of our emotions, and not deeming any them appropriate or inappropriate. It is OK to feel ALL of them, to be vulnerable, or angry, or soft, or strong. There is no shame in any of them. No matter what has passed, and what we have been through, it is no indication of how we should feel right now. There is no should. We have all the right in the world to our own emotions. In the end of the day they are just messengers delivering a precious message to us, giving us invaluable information on ourselves, and where we stand.

I will allow myself to be as soft as this time requires. I will be patient and tolerant with myself. I will give myself understanding and all the time I might need. And if need be, I will cry on it and take no shame of it. I believe, that, what I feel right now, will bring me a deeper level of understanding and compassion for myself. I believe, that it will be a great learning experience.

Allow yourself the benefit to feel whatever comes up. All the emotions are there for a reason. They will bring you closer to who you really are. None of them is bad or inappropriate. They will just deliver you a message. So at this moment be as soft or as tough as it feels right for you!

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Plant a Tree

Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree. I really like this quote by Martin Luther. It seems to sum up everything, that I believe. That happiness is found in enjoying the moment. Even if I knew I was not here tomorrow, I would still do today something I believed in and liked.

Our attitude has everything to do, how we experience life. We can see life as a hard journey from one misery to another, or we can concentrate on the positive side of things. Everything, and I mean everything, has a positive side. Even the most terrible things, that could ever happen to us, have something positive in them, if we just choose to notice it.

The most terrible things tend to let us see, how good our lives have been before. And how little we valued those good times. They tend to give a halo of extraordinary to little every day things. We don’t so very often see these things as blessings. For example do you appreciate doing the dishes? Laundry? Vacuuming? We don’t let these things make us happy. Only when these things are taken away from us, we begin to appreciate them in a very different way.

We also tend to postpone our happiness until some condition is fulfilled. I will be happy, when I lose weight, or when I get enough money, or when something else happens. When we postpone happiness, we are in fact saying, that this very moment, Right Now, is not enough. That this very moment is somehow flawed. This precise moment is all we have. This, Right Now, is when Life happens. Your life and mine. It is perfect as it is.

We cannot decide over or control everything, that happens in this life. Things will happen to us, that we don’t like about or wouldn’t want to happen. We can only decide, how we react to them. We can only enjoy this very moment we have right now and be happy about it. No-one knows about the future. There are no guarantees of the next moment. This very moment is all there ever is. So if everything is good Right Now Right Here, enjoy it fully. And if not, make sure you make most of this very moment. It is all, that you have.

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Make Some Lemonade

It is easy to be positive, when things are going our way. The real key is to keep the mindset, when life throws us a curve ball.

We didn’t come on this planet just to sail through life with no obstacles at all. We had the utmost trust in our own ability to find our way and to survive. Like the rest of the animals still have. I’ve seen birds, even the big ones, land on the tiniest branches very confidently indeed. They trust in their own wings and their ability to fly, if necessary.

Very often we humans don’t do the same. We wallow in our own sorrow, when things turn rough. We go stuff over and over again and get nowhere. I have yet to see a bird, when a branch breaks, that would drop on the ground crying: “But all I wanted was to sit on that branch! Was it so much to ask!” And then go over and over the situation with friends and family.

No, sir. A bird would just fly away and yet, we humans seem unable to do just that. Instead of trusting our own ability to survive, we go over the same stuff again and again with our neighbors, coworkers, relatives and even strangers. And then we wonder, why we seem to be stuck and getting nowhere. Why same kinds of things keep repeating in our lives.

The choice is always ours. We can stay grounded in the present moment or we can look back, only we are not exactly going to get back there, whether we look that way or not. We can concentrate on circumstances or look for solutions. We cannot control all of life, however hard we try, we can only control, how we ourselves react to things.

We all have this ability to survive anything life throws at us and turn it into a victory. We were born with this ability! So what do you do next time, when Life hands you lemons? You make some lemonade, cause my friend you have in you, what it takes to thrive!

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Life is Happening Right Now

When was the last time you appreciated the bowl your meal was served in? The roundness and generosity of it. The practicality and weight of it. The form, color and material. Being in the present moment is easier said than done. Our minds just won’t stand still, take in the moment and appreciate the minute details of it.

This moment right now, right here is actually the only moment we truly have in our lives. Our minds often make it seem the otherwise though. We go on planning tomorrow, or lunch break, or even just the next conversation, that we’re going to have. And planning the future, that might or might not come, is not the only thing we do. Instead of leaving the old stuff to yesterday, where it belongs, we often mull over it. We go on the same old stuff over and over again in our minds, like a broken record.

Living in the present moment is a hard thing to do in this fast time and space, that we are living. But it is the only time we actually get to have. I have lately done a lot of grounding work to be in the moment. Every time I catch myself thinking ahead, I bring myself back to this moment. I love, how Nancy Levin put it. That whatever she was doing was the most important thing. Nothing else needed to be done at that precise moment.

That is how I have been reminding myself too. I am writing now. I am walking now. Now I do the dishes. Reminding myself, that whatever I am doing, it is worth to be here and now, and enjoyed. Ordinary things and events have begun to feel like one of kind type of things. And come to think of it, though it seems we are doing the same kinds of stuff over and over again, they are different each time. The laundry isn’t exactly the same, the dishes, the walks, the conversations. They are all different every time.

So from my own experience I can recommend to find the moment at hand. To enjoy and wonder the minute details of it, that are never the same. That way our moments will gain more dignity and appreciation. And life will never be the same again.

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Everything is a Mirror

Everything and everyone in this universe mirrors our beliefs back to us. Whatever we believe, we will find in this world. So if we believe, that all youths are lazy, they will rise up to meet that expectation. On the other hand if we believe, that we will meet only kind and friendly people wherever we go, that too will be our experience.

Many teachers have recently  written about this phenomenon. It is like all the people are shards of a mirror, mirroring back whatever we show them. This goes to ourselves, too. Haven’t we all one time or another wondered, why on Earth did we behave the way we did? When we don’t pay close attention on to how we ourselves want to feel, we will more easily just be reflecting something back.

I have noticed, that when I, myself, am annoyed and irritated, other people seem to be like that too. On the other hand if I’m happy and easy, I meet people, who are similar. When I hold certain expectations to certain people, they will rise to occasion and meet those expectations, be they good or bad ones. Sometimes people just mirror back to us, what we need to know about ourselves.

So that annoying relative is just mirroring back to you the annoyance you feel towards one of your own habits (usually the one, that annoys you so much). (Sometimes you just expect them to be annoying and they are fulfilling that request every time so perfectly.) But also that wonderful customer service person is just mirroring back to you your own kindness and expertise. When we start to notice this thing for what it is, it is easy to turn it around.

By acknowledging without judging the habits in ourselves we dislike, we make it possible to release them, to change them. But first we just have to notice them. When we expect our relatives to be less annoying they surprise us pleasantly. And whenever you see someone acting exceptionally well, give them the credit by all means, but take also some yourself. You wouldn’t witness that behavior, if it wasn’t part of you also!

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