New Beginnings

We often have the misconception that we have to wait for the New Year or some other time, like the beginning of the month or week, or a particular circumstance until we can make changes into our lives, to begin again. New Year particularly feels like a perfect time to time any change, because even the calendar is beginning anew. So we just wait for that perfect time and hope that the intermediate days would pass quickly. This is however a great misunderstanding.

We have a New Beginning every morning, when we wake up. In fact we have a New Beginning every minute and every second of every day. We simply have to choose differently. It is possible to make a different choice any time we want to, but making changes  in the morning is easier than during the day, because the momentum for any day increases and builds up when we are living it.

A New Beginning means, that we change our lives one way or another, and change is simply just an act of choosing again, of choosing differently. But it is like a muscle the less we practice it, the harder it will be. There are several ways to invite change into our lives, to make room for it and to make it easier. Following are the ways that have served me well.

When I notice I am in an act of doing something I would want to change in my life, I just think: “Up until now I have done this. From now on I will choose again.” This approach will acknowledge my willingness to change and also my power to actually do it. It will empower me. It makes me see that the change I crave is just a small act of choosing to do something differently and not a big mountain to climb. This one I use every day when I want to change my behavior like reduce gossiping or complaining.

Secondly I try to set my intention for the day ahead already in the morning. This will set the tone for the whole day as my expectations for that particular day will be influenced by my stated intentions. Setting intentions already in the morning will help me to invite into my life the change I would like to see. This one I use especially if there’s something special I want to accomplish during that day.

Thirdly I try to find or to create myself affirmations, that are aligned with the change I would want to see happen, and then state them several times during the day. This will plant the seeds of that particular change into my mind. In time those seeds will begin to grow and then change my life or make the change easier to do. This one I used a great deal when I was learning to love myself. And it really served its purpose.

Life is happening right NOW. So if  you want a New Beginning, if there’s something you would want to change in your life, don’t wait for another minute. Don’t waste any more of your precious time for waiting. Try any or all of the methods above and choose again.  Change is just a simple act of choosing to do one little thing differently.

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Stressing about something

We people tend to stress about very many things. We stress about people and places, about past and future to name some. By stressing about things we rob ourselves the fun and joy that could be found in the present moment.

I was just the other day talking to someone, who was totally stressed about their teenage child. I was kindly trying to hint them, that everything in life depends solely upon our own point of attention, not on someone else, no matter what their behavior is, but when a person is not ready, they cannot hear it.

Soon it is Christmas, a time when many people also feel very stressed. The closer the celebrations are the more stressed they are. And yet Christmas always comes and goes every year no matter how one prepared to it or not.

Life and the whole Universe are here to totally support us in anything we might want. No questions asked, no judgement passed. We are totally free to choose to be stressed, calm, irritated, happy, joyful, angry or whatever else we might want to feel. The choice is ours and ours alone. And Law of Attraction will kindly match us with whatever we choose.

Feelings are the first indicators of what one is currently creating. So stressing about something will not make Law of Attraction help one at all. Instead the whole Universe will say: “Stressed? Odd choice, but here’s more stress to you!”  Law of Attraction then will match one up with even more of those stressful situations. What one focuses on, one gets.

In order to let Law of Attraction help one, one must remain happy and joyful, expectant to find easily and effortlessly anything one needs. Then Law of Attraction will match one with more similar situations, not to speak of the things themselves. It doesn’t matter how one acquires that state of mind, what matters is the feeling itself.

So next time you feel stressed about something, take a deep breath, count to ten, meditate, tap, dance, tap-dance, recite your favorite poem, sing. Whatever works for you. Take any steps necessary to regain your relaxed, joyful, expectant attitude and watch miracles happen!

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Three Exercises to boost Law of Attraction

Often we are stuck so tightly in our everyday life, that it feels difficult or even impossible to change anything. The annoying relative is always as annoying and the household chores are as tedious as ever. This week I came about a video about exercises one could do to make Law of Attraction work better or faster. So in following suite here is my own list of exercises to do to change our perception of things and find the change we would want in our lives. One can do these in one’s own mind or write them down. Give them a try and watch your life change.

Give yourself compliments

Often our self-talk is very critical. We see everything we dislike, but not the things we like or the ones we succeeded in. In order to feel more invincible we have to believe in ourselves. Therefore it pays to learn to compliment ourselves. There are all kinds of situations during every day, about which we can give ourselves little compliments, like for shopping groceries or making dinner or just plain brushing our teeth, as it is a task of love to take care of our bodies. So next time notice these little things you do for yourself and give yourself  recognition for doing them. It could be just something very simple like along the lines of this thing I often say to myself: “Oh, girl, you are doing so well. I’m so proud of you.” Just give yourself little acknowledgements every day. The point is to feel good. And as you feel good about yourself Law of attraction will begin to bring you more things you will feel good about!

See things differently

We often get really irritated about all the little things lying about in our houses. We need to tidy all the time and find places to stash them and yet them seem to fill every available place. For awhile try to see them differently as wealth, not as rubbish. They are things you have bought, so you must have had the money to do that at one point or another. You might not even like all of them anymore, but never the less they are still your wealth. When you next time put them away remind yourself of this. This will make you see how blessed you are in having everything you do have. The point of this is to begin to feel more abundant. When you feel abundant Law of Attraction will begin to match you with more abundance.

Think that you can only succeed

So often we concentrate on everything that could go wrong in our lives. We focus in the negative. This undermines our own believing in our ability to succeed. For awhile try to think, that nothing in your life can go wrong. Whatever happens, think that things will always works out for you. Remind yourself of this every day and say to yourself things like: “Everything always works out for me. I wonder what cool things this day will hold for me?”. The point of this exercise is to begin to expect that only good things will happen to us. What we expect Law of Attraction will steer along our path.

More fun games to try in https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=khDjWLiY28c

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The Power in Kindness

Often we feel that kindness is the same thing as showing weakness. And we definitely don’t want to appear weak in front of someone that we feel is defying us. So we answer with fire to fire and before we can even understand, what happened, something that begun as a small misunderstanding has flamed up to be major incident, where there is no going back. Friendships are broken, words are said, that hurt and cannot ever be taken back. In the worst case we all carry scars for the rest of our lives.

Last week a co-worker hurt my feelings. I struggled to forgive and let it go. I was mistreated and felt righteous in my hurt. I have learned too much, though, to word this hurt. I know too well the power of the words, their ability to hurt and wound beyond measure once we let them slip out from our lips. But in that situation I wasn’t able to find any kindness in my heart either, which saddened me. For I strive in every situation to be kind. I fear this is how the wars begin, when we are unable to find kindness in our hearts.

Then I came across Gabby Bernstein’s blog about Appreciation Game introduced by Abraham-Hicks. Appreciation Game is about trying to find things to appreciate in a situation that is not to our liking. I applied this to my co-worker, who had so wounded me and my feelings. And lo and behold, I was able to change my feelings and find the kindness in my heart after all. How little and insignificant that hurtful situation seemed to be in the face of all the good qualities this person seemed to possess.

I must agree with writer Henry James when he says: “Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind.” There is nothing more important in our lives. With kindness we can change the world for better. If there is just one thing I want to be remembered for, it is for being kind.

We must understand though,  that sometimes kindness is walking away, leaving the situation, person or place. By allowing someone to mistreat us is not showing kindness to them nor to ourselves. Sometimes we show kindness by letting someone we love to struggle and find their own solutions to things. As much as we would love to carry the burdens of our loved ones, it is not kindness to rob them from their own experiences and paths.

Kindness it letting others be themselves without trying to change them to our own liking. Kindness is being our own authentic selves without compromises and excuses. There is a huge power in kindness if we just harness it. And there is no excuse for not doing that.

More about Gabby Bernstein’s Appreciation page here: http://gabbybernstein.com/the-appreciation-game/

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