It is so easy to laugh at and criticize someone, who is acting differently. So easy to judge someone without knowing anything about them. We are so eager to separate others, expel them and disassociate them from us.
When we judge another, we are in fact judging something in ourselves. Whatever it is, that’s rubbing us the wrong way about someone else, is something we find inside of us. So instead of changing ourselves to feel better, we judge others, who have similar kinds of characteristics.
When someone else judges us, they are just trying to make themselves feel better. They are themselves feeling insecure, inferior even, and feel, that the only way to feel better, is to make everyone else feel less and smaller than themselves. When we understand this, it will be easier to not let it affect us, to have sympathy even towards someone feeling so bad about themselves.
Every single one of us is doing the best we can with what we have. Even the ones acting out, criticizing others and trying to make them feel less, and those always complaining. Everyone thinks they will feel better with whatever they are doing and how they are doing it. When we judge another, we are in fact saying, that this other person doesn’t deserve to feel better. And yet again, we all have an equal right to exist in this Universe.
Whenever we feel sympathy towards another person, we will not be so eager to judge them. I always try to give another person a benefit of doubt. Maybe they are just having a bad day: a row with their spouse, no coffee in the morning, pet being sick on their favorite carpet etc. I would not want to judge someone just because their pet was sick in the morning!
We can all do the same, give another person a benefit of doubt before judging them. We all can be a little kinder towards each other. For me kindness is the key to a better life. And we all can be better.