Last time

There’s a time and place for everything. Things begin, run their course and then end. There is therefore a last time for everything.

Life is made of changes. Often we treat things and people in our lives as a constant, we take them for granted. We don’t want to see the end. But sometimes that ending is not in our hands.

Things end. Children grow up, marriages end, health fail, pets die. Suddenly the little things we took for granted are no more. All we are left are memories and regrets. Regrets about not enjoying those little thing while we had the chance.

Enjoy all your life while it lasts. Every day and every moment. Enjoy especially those little moments, because Life will change and one day they will be just a memory. Don’t let them slip by your fingers. Be present and relish them.

This will be my last blog. I wish you have enjoyed this ride together. Hopefully you have also gotten something out of it: perhaps a new thought, an altered insight, or a different perspective.

My last wish for you is, that you enjoy all the things life has to offer you, especially the little ones, because they make up your life, and one day there may come time you will miss them. Enjoy them fully while you have them, and remember them fondly, when they are gone.

Here’s to your journey! Bon voyage!

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Thank You

How often do you express gratitude for the little things? The dishes, the laundry, the plumbing? Or the people in your life? So often we just take them for granted, and even moan about them.

Not that long ago all water had to be carried in from outside, miles away even, and sewage had to be carried out. And to get hot water one had to heat it on the stove. Now we take for granted all these modern conveniences, that are available to us.

We take for granted our spouse, children, even friends. Instead of giving them compliments and showing, how much they really mean to us, we treat them as their were just a nuisance in our lives, and nag, and even yell at them.

Gratitude is the basis of all contentment and happiness in life. There simply cannot be true happiness without gratitude. Yet we rarely feel grateful for the lives we lead: the conveniences, that make our lives easier, and the people, who make our lives worth while.

Gratitude transforms what we have into enough and more. Life without gratitude will not give us satisfaction. Life without gratitude will only make us displeased with everything, even the things, that go in our favor, our little victories.

Often we notice, what we have, only when we lose it. We only notice our health, when we don’t have it anymore; we only notice the time with our children, when they have grown up and moved away. There are million little things in live, we don’t notice until it is too late.

It is the little things, that make our lives. The ones we take for granted and don’t notice until they are lost forever. They are the ones we should be grateful to have. They are the ones we should enjoy fully every day.

For awhile set aside all that you are still missing and take a moment to notice all those little things you have at the moment: the clothes, the air, even the body you have. Feel grateful for that you have woken up to this brand new day with all these little things. And say Thank You for them all.

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Happiness

Happiness is an inside job. Our happiness doesn’t depend on anybody else, but our own focus. It is said, that we are as happy or unhappy as we decide to be. And so it is.

There are circumstances in this world, that are similar to a bunch of people, yet some of them are happy and some are miserable. Therefore the circumstances themselves cannot be the source of that happiness, or unhappiness. What is it then? Their attitude, their inward disposition, their focus in life.

I have seen miserable people, who are doing fine in their lives. They have clothes, fairly good jobs, food on their plates, roof over their heads, solid families and yet they are unhappy. I have also seen content and happy people, who are worst struck by life. They have been fired from their jobs, been in car crashes, or given the worst diagnoses ever. Yet they are happy about their lives. The difference between these people is their focus: the first ones focus on what they don’t have and the second on what they do. Focusing on what we have, creates happiness.

Sometimes we are just too far from happiness to even try to achieve it. When I was clinically depressed, there was no way I could be happy about anything. But luckily I somehow understood, that I didn’t have to. All I needed to do was to feel a tiny bit better each day. For me that meant to find out every day and write down at least one thing, that didn’t make me feel bad that day. That could have been just a ray of sun, a squirrel crossing the road, or a rosebush blooming by the sidewalk. They didn’t bring me joy or happiness, but neither did they make me feel worse. The day I listed three such incidents, was the day I knew, I was heading the right direction.

The main point is, we can decide to be happy or at least not to be unhappy anymore. When we decide that, we will find a way. One tiny step at a time. Anyway the most important thing is to decide. If you are physically sick, you are going to do something about it. Feel the same way about your happiness. If you are unhappy, decide to change the situation. Decide it now. Today. Don’t wait a second longer. You are worth it.

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