Manic Manifesting

When we first hear about the Law of Attraction, I think we are all enticed by the prospect of getting and having whatever we should want to. “Cool! Now I’m finally gonna win that Lottery!”

I see a lot of people stay hooked on manifesting. They obsessively keep trying to manifest all sorts of things. However Law of Attraction doesn’t respond to our words, or actions. Law of Attraction only responds to our vibration, to whatever we emit from ourselves. And we are only able to vibrate or emit, what we believe is possible in this life.

By trying to manically manifest things into our lives, we will do ourselves more harm than good. So just stop and ask yourself, why on Earth do I want, whatever it is, that I want. Am I trying to impress others, show them how far I have gone, or do I perhaps just want the feeling of security, freedom, or joyfulness? In the end it is always the feeling we are after, not the stuff itself. That is extra.

First of all our beliefs limit profoundly, how we are able to vibrate. We cannot be or have anything, we think is impossible for us, or in general. Our beliefs are a big stumbling block, and we don’t even notice them at times. EFT or Tapping is an easy way to show us our limiting beliefs and gently remove them. (see my post on 22nd June, 2016 on EFT in http://www.merjasuomela.wordpress.com/2016/06 (second one when scrolling down))

Secondly everything in this Universe is two things: the wanted and the lack of it. It is possible, that we focus on the things we want the wrong way around. If we are more focused on the lack, Law of Attraction will match us up with more lack. To find out which side we are more focused on, we have to pay close attention to how we feel, when we think, visualize and talk about the things we want. Lack makes us always feel bad, or constricted, as allowing on the other hand makes us feel good, eager, happy, or joyful even.

Thirdly we can limit Law of Attraction all by ourselves. By thinking and visualizing, that the only way, we can have for example extra money, is the lottery, we are in fact limiting our options of getting it. We are shutting countless doors, by which our extra money could come to us.

In the end, if we feel that particular feeling we are after, does it really matter, how it came? If it came that specific way we ourselves wanted it to come, or some other possible way?

IMG_5147

New World

Every day we wake up, we get to have an awesome present: a brand new day, that none of us has ever lived before. We are unspeakably lucky to have this. Every new day is a new beginning for us, a chance to start again.

We are so prone to see all the negativity in this world, in every situation, and in every single day, that we don’t recognize the immensity of what we truly have in a new day. This poor habit is blinding us for this precious gift, that we get to have every single morning, when we wake up.

Every new day, that we wake up to, invites us to make the most of that particular day. Every new morning offers us the opportunity to let go of the yesterday, leave it behind, and begin again. Every day we get to choose, how we want that day to go, and what we want to do. We have the choice.

I am ever so grateful for each and every day I get to wake up to, for every new sunrise and sunset. The world is brand new every single morning, so full of possibilities and potential. I am immensely blessed with each new day, that I get to have and live. I humbly accept every morning as a gift, and every morning before getting up I bless the day by making a list of things I am grateful for. Every morning it makes the day seem even more precious.

To make the most of your life see every day for what it is: an invaluable gift for a new beginning. No matter what has happened yesterday, or wherever you are, you get to start again today, right now. Therefore bless your every morning with gratitude and watch you life change for the better.

20160717_155410

Weight of The World

I have always prided myself for being tough, having the strength to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders, if need be. Now that I would really need that strength, it seems to have gone though, lost in time and space. Like I am an empty shell, that is supposed to contain something, but it doesn’t. I am soft and mellow, no strength at all to be found.

When we came to this Earth, we intended to have a full human experience, to feel every emotion there is, not deeming something bad or inappropriate. We intended to have them all, not just one range of the spectrum. The world would look pretty sad place, if, say, blue was considered bad, and we did all we could to avoid it.

We have to give ourselves permission to feel all of our emotions, and not deeming any them appropriate or inappropriate. It is OK to feel ALL of them, to be vulnerable, or angry, or soft, or strong. There is no shame in any of them. No matter what has passed, and what we have been through, it is no indication of how we should feel right now. There is no should. We have all the right in the world to our own emotions. In the end of the day they are just messengers delivering a precious message to us, giving us invaluable information on ourselves, and where we stand.

I will allow myself to be as soft as this time requires. I will be patient and tolerant with myself. I will give myself understanding and all the time I might need. And if need be, I will cry on it and take no shame of it. I believe, that, what I feel right now, will bring me a deeper level of understanding and compassion for myself. I believe, that it will be a great learning experience.

Allow yourself the benefit to feel whatever comes up. All the emotions are there for a reason. They will bring you closer to who you really are. None of them is bad or inappropriate. They will just deliver you a message. So at this moment be as soft or as tough as it feels right for you!

_DSC0708

Plant a Tree

Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree. I really like this quote by Martin Luther. It seems to sum up everything, that I believe. That happiness is found in enjoying the moment. Even if I knew I was not here tomorrow, I would still do today something I believed in and liked.

Our attitude has everything to do, how we experience life. We can see life as a hard journey from one misery to another, or we can concentrate on the positive side of things. Everything, and I mean everything, has a positive side. Even the most terrible things, that could ever happen to us, have something positive in them, if we just choose to notice it.

The most terrible things tend to let us see, how good our lives have been before. And how little we valued those good times. They tend to give a halo of extraordinary to little every day things. We don’t so very often see these things as blessings. For example do you appreciate doing the dishes? Laundry? Vacuuming? We don’t let these things make us happy. Only when these things are taken away from us, we begin to appreciate them in a very different way.

We also tend to postpone our happiness until some condition is fulfilled. I will be happy, when I lose weight, or when I get enough money, or when something else happens. When we postpone happiness, we are in fact saying, that this very moment, Right Now, is not enough. That this very moment is somehow flawed. This precise moment is all we have. This, Right Now, is when Life happens. Your life and mine. It is perfect as it is.

We cannot decide over or control everything, that happens in this life. Things will happen to us, that we don’t like about or wouldn’t want to happen. We can only decide, how we react to them. We can only enjoy this very moment we have right now and be happy about it. No-one knows about the future. There are no guarantees of the next moment. This very moment is all there ever is. So if everything is good Right Now Right Here, enjoy it fully. And if not, make sure you make most of this very moment. It is all, that you have.

20160806_144737

Life is Happening Right Now

When was the last time you appreciated the bowl your meal was served in? The roundness and generosity of it. The practicality and weight of it. The form, color and material. Being in the present moment is easier said than done. Our minds just won’t stand still, take in the moment and appreciate the minute details of it.

This moment right now, right here is actually the only moment we truly have in our lives. Our minds often make it seem the otherwise though. We go on planning tomorrow, or lunch break, or even just the next conversation, that we’re going to have. And planning the future, that might or might not come, is not the only thing we do. Instead of leaving the old stuff to yesterday, where it belongs, we often mull over it. We go on the same old stuff over and over again in our minds, like a broken record.

Living in the present moment is a hard thing to do in this fast time and space, that we are living. But it is the only time we actually get to have. I have lately done a lot of grounding work to be in the moment. Every time I catch myself thinking ahead, I bring myself back to this moment. I love, how Nancy Levin put it. That whatever she was doing was the most important thing. Nothing else needed to be done at that precise moment.

That is how I have been reminding myself too. I am writing now. I am walking now. Now I do the dishes. Reminding myself, that whatever I am doing, it is worth to be here and now, and enjoyed. Ordinary things and events have begun to feel like one of kind type of things. And come to think of it, though it seems we are doing the same kinds of stuff over and over again, they are different each time. The laundry isn’t exactly the same, the dishes, the walks, the conversations. They are all different every time.

So from my own experience I can recommend to find the moment at hand. To enjoy and wonder the minute details of it, that are never the same. That way our moments will gain more dignity and appreciation. And life will never be the same again.

002 uusivuosi

Everything is a Mirror

Everything and everyone in this universe mirrors our beliefs back to us. Whatever we believe, we will find in this world. So if we believe, that all youths are lazy, they will rise up to meet that expectation. On the other hand if we believe, that we will meet only kind and friendly people wherever we go, that too will be our experience.

Many teachers have recently  written about this phenomenon. It is like all the people are shards of a mirror, mirroring back whatever we show them. This goes to ourselves, too. Haven’t we all one time or another wondered, why on Earth did we behave the way we did? When we don’t pay close attention on to how we ourselves want to feel, we will more easily just be reflecting something back.

I have noticed, that when I, myself, am annoyed and irritated, other people seem to be like that too. On the other hand if I’m happy and easy, I meet people, who are similar. When I hold certain expectations to certain people, they will rise to occasion and meet those expectations, be they good or bad ones. Sometimes people just mirror back to us, what we need to know about ourselves.

So that annoying relative is just mirroring back to you the annoyance you feel towards one of your own habits (usually the one, that annoys you so much). (Sometimes you just expect them to be annoying and they are fulfilling that request every time so perfectly.) But also that wonderful customer service person is just mirroring back to you your own kindness and expertise. When we start to notice this thing for what it is, it is easy to turn it around.

By acknowledging without judging the habits in ourselves we dislike, we make it possible to release them, to change them. But first we just have to notice them. When we expect our relatives to be less annoying they surprise us pleasantly. And whenever you see someone acting exceptionally well, give them the credit by all means, but take also some yourself. You wouldn’t witness that behavior, if it wasn’t part of you also!

IMG_5055

About Complaining

For sometime ago I listened to a couple of women, who seemed to be saying only positive things, but were in fact complaining about everything. I have noticed, that much of the interaction in our society seems to be based on complaining. The more we complain, the more eager ears we have. I have often wondered, why it so easy to concentrate on things, that don’t work the way we want them to, instead of those, that do.

Complaining is just comparing in other clothes. When we complain, we are in fact just comparing something to the image we hold in our minds of how we think it should be. Things are as they are, and by complaining about them we are just holding ourselves on the negative side of life.

Complaining will keep our focus on things, that don’t work the way we would want them to. And what we focus on, we will have more of. Complaining will eventually diminish all the good  things in our lives by making them feel smaller and less. Complaining will make us ungrateful.

I myself don’t see any point in wallowing in all the negative things, that may or may not happen on this Earth. Concentrating solely on the bad stuff, that happened or might have happened somewhere else on the planet, and that has no bearing or connection whatsoever on me, will not make me feel good. It will not make me feel secure. And my first priority to myself is to feel good and secure.

I believe, it would be wise to more often think about, what is our motivation, when we share something.  Are we just doing the popular thing and participating in something we don’t ourselves believe in, and that makes us feel bad, or are we sharing the words of kindness and encouragement to each other? At least I will in the future focus even more determinately on what I will say.

IMG_7325

 

About Vibration

I love Law of Attraction, as it gives me the power. The power to choose whatever life experience I want to. I guess we all love LoA for the same reason. But I really have to stress here, that according to it, we do not get, what we want. We get, what we are.

This is a vibrational Universe and we are vibrational beings emitting a mix of vibrations all the time. There is never just one thing we want, there are many. Therefore a mix of vibrations. And Law of Attraction always matches us up with whatever vibration we are emitting at any given time. We can want something so bad, but if we are no match to it, we don’t get it. Whatever we are getting, we are already being.

How to know then, what we emit and what comes to us? Our feelings are messengers bringing us information about what our vibration is. They are delivering us a status report, giving us vital information of where we stand. They are not good or bad in their own right, they are just messages. The more closely we listen to them, the more we get the message they bring.

So if I am feeling blue and down, it is just a status report, that, what will come, will perhaps not be of my highest good. If I am on the other hand feeling eager and joyful, it just states, that I am on the right path towards my desires. Therefore it pays to find the good-feeling things and thoughts of any given situation.

I try to be very particular, what I choose to focus on, and what my vibration therefore is. And this has caused me to firmly believe, that Life is always working out for me! We are all capable of focusing on whatever we want to. Whatever we focus on, we will emit vibration of and get more of. When we choose to focus only on good-feeling things and thoughts, Law of Attraction will match us up with more similar things. And suddenly Life seems to always work in our favor.

20150809_140214b

 

About Judging

It is so easy to laugh at and criticize someone, who is acting differently. So easy to judge someone without knowing anything about them. We are so eager to separate others, expel them and disassociate them from us.

When we judge another, we are in fact judging something in ourselves. Whatever it is, that’s rubbing us the wrong way about someone else, is something we find inside of us. So instead of changing ourselves to feel better, we judge others, who have similar kinds of characteristics.

When someone else judges us, they are just trying to make themselves feel better. They are themselves feeling insecure, inferior even, and feel, that the only way to feel better, is to make everyone else feel less and smaller than themselves. When we understand this, it will be easier to not let it affect us, to have sympathy even towards someone feeling so bad about themselves.

Every single one of us is doing the best we can with what we have. Even the ones acting out, criticizing others and trying to make them feel less, and those always complaining. Everyone thinks they will feel better with whatever they are doing and how they are doing it. When we judge another, we are in fact saying, that this other person doesn’t deserve to feel better. And yet again, we all have an equal right to exist in this Universe.

Whenever we feel sympathy towards another person, we will not be so eager to judge them. I always try to give another person a benefit of doubt. Maybe they are just having a bad day: a row with their spouse, no coffee in the morning, pet being sick on their favorite carpet etc. I would not want to judge someone just because their pet was sick in the morning!

We can all do the same, give another person a benefit of doubt before judging them. We all can be a little kinder towards each other. For me kindness is the key to a better life. And we all can be better.

DSC_8615bb

Secret Friends

Every day we meet new people both in real life and in social media. With some we click immediately. Some seem a little off, but they don’t bother us that much. And then there are those, who absolutely ruffle our feathers the wrong way. Oh, yeah.

Abraham-Hicks says, that we can only meet with people, who are on the same vibrational plane as we ourselves are. So as I see it: it shouldn’t even be possible for me to meet these people, as they seem to be on a completely different vibrational plane than me. And yet meet we do.

I have come to think, that maybe I’m looking this from a wrong angle altogether. Mary Morrissey tells a story, how Dalai Lama calls his adversaries his secret friends. Friends are people, who bring out the best of us, who make us grow as human beings. Therefore I have come to believe, that these people are in fact my secret friends.

Without these people I would not be the person I am. Annoying as they are, these people challenge me and things I believe I know. They teach me patience and tolerance. They teach me things about myself, that even I didn’t know existed. They really force me to grow as a human being.

We all have these secret friends. Next time they bring their bitter gifts to you, instead of cursing them and answering with fire to fire, try to thank them in your mind for the gift of knowledge they offer to you. Try to see them as they are: friends, who demand you to be patient and tolerant, and to grow to be a better you.

I most certainly am grateful for all the friends I have: those, who encourage me and agree with me, and most of all those secret ones, who annoy me and disagree with me. For I know, that they are the ones, who really challenge me to evolve and, in the end of the day, truly challenge me to be a better human being.

_DSC0127