About Vibration

I love Law of Attraction, as it gives me the power. The power to choose whatever life experience I want to. I guess we all love LoA for the same reason. But I really have to stress here, that according to it, we do not get, what we want. We get, what we are.

This is a vibrational Universe and we are vibrational beings emitting a mix of vibrations all the time. There is never just one thing we want, there are many. Therefore a mix of vibrations. And Law of Attraction always matches us up with whatever vibration we are emitting at any given time. We can want something so bad, but if we are no match to it, we don’t get it. Whatever we are getting, we are already being.

How to know then, what we emit and what comes to us? Our feelings are messengers bringing us information about what our vibration is. They are delivering us a status report, giving us vital information of where we stand. They are not good or bad in their own right, they are just messages. The more closely we listen to them, the more we get the message they bring.

So if I am feeling blue and down, it is just a status report, that, what will come, will perhaps not be of my highest good. If I am on the other hand feeling eager and joyful, it just states, that I am on the right path towards my desires. Therefore it pays to find the good-feeling things and thoughts of any given situation.

I try to be very particular, what I choose to focus on, and what my vibration therefore is. And this has caused me to firmly believe, that Life is always working out for me! We are all capable of focusing on whatever we want to. Whatever we focus on, we will emit vibration of and get more of. When we choose to focus only on good-feeling things and thoughts, Law of Attraction will match us up with more similar things. And suddenly Life seems to always work in our favor.

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Just BE

When was the last time you decided to just BE? My days at least are filled with a range of activities: there’s work and commuting, there’s cooking meals and shopping for them, there’s house work and many more demands on my leisure time. With this fast moving world and with all its demands on my time I hardly seem to have any time at all to just be and breathe.

Yet it is of vital importance every now and then to just BE, to sit in the silence with our own company. It is important to get to know the voice of our inner guidance. If the noise of the world around us, gets too hectic, too demanding, we might easily miss the soft voice of our intuition and soon feel sad and lost. At least this happens to me. I have come to notice, that the more momentum things have, the more demands there are on my time, the more important it is for me to quiet down.

When I’m connected to my inner guidance, I am calm, more productive, and happy with whatever I’m doing. I am healthy, centered, strong and flowing easily with life. Whenever I lose that connection though, I feel critical, reluctant, resentful, overwhelmed, depressed even. So for me finding time to just BE and to listen to that small voice of the Universe is a matter of sanity.

Calmness and happiness are an inside job, they do not come from anything, that might be outside of us. Therefore connecting with the inside and listening to the inner guidance is of utmost importance and therefore well worth any time put into it. For me they are a necessary part of my life and they are a habit I highly recommend to everyone.

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Living in the Present Moment

This week I have been several times reminded to stay in the present. I must admit, that I have been having a tough time keeping my spirits up, so I believe these reminders have been an answer to that. This has made me to think more closely about the whole concept of living in the present moment.

Marie Forleo stated in one of her videos, that all the unhappiness in our lives comes from resisting the moment. When we push against the present and are not yet a vibrational match to our desires, we feel the discord by being unhappy. I have had first hand experience, that this is true in my life. I have not been in vibrational harmony with the BIG dream I have finally come up and have been resisting the present in my eagerness to pursue it. As soon as I begun to pay more attention to the present moment, I noticed some very satisfying baby steps, that I can take towards my ultimate dream.

All of the spiritual teachers encourage us to be/live in the present. They point out, that the only moment we have is this one fleeting moment that is here right now and then is gone forever. We don’t often even notice, what we already have in this particular time of our lives. By doing so we are denying the beauty and the perfection of the present. We fret about things that could go wrong in the future or we grieve about something that already has in our past.  Without this very moment and everything it contains (whether good or bad) we wouldn’t even be able to dream the dreams we do.

Living in the here and now can be difficult though. My mind at least starts easily to wander around: I’m planning the next week while doing the dishes, living again things while walking, even dreaming of a vacation while working. Sometimes it seems almost impossible to stop thinking ahead and start noticing what is!

For me sports has always been a good way to stay grounded. During my exercises I have to concentrate to make the moves correctly and to calculate the repetitions. And the pain while pushing the very last repetitions is also helping to stop my mind from wandering around. I have also noticed that in the midst of an intense game of squash the best way to be in the present is to go with the flow, to be carried away by the game. I believe, that being very much in the here and now during the sports, is one of the things, why they always make me feel so good.

Meditation is another a good way for me to stay in the present. During my meditations I have begun to notice the gaps in my thinking, or the noticer behind the noticing. I am not able to clear my mind completely, but I believe that is not the goal. The goal is to feel the moment, that I’m living right now without any need to hurry ahead or to dwell in the past.

Abraham-Hicks has said, that they would never face a reality unless it was exactly as they wanted it to be. They have also said, that we are where we are, and where we are is really, really good. For me that is an indicator to acknowledge the present moment in all its beauty and perfection. I also believe, that honoring the present is not at all the same as facing the reality.

As pleasant as our dreams can be and as much joy as they can bring into our lives, resisting our present will make us miserable if we are not yet a true match to our dreams. To step back from dreaming for awhile and give our full attention to the moment we are living right now will perhaps show us some tiny baby steps, that are already in our grasp, but which we cannot notice while being unhappy.

So I have decided, that while I will keep on dreaming, I will also begin to notice and to honor this very moment right here, right now. I will begin to acknowledge the perfection of every moment of my life as without them I would not even be able to strive for more. I now believe this is a way to bless all the future moments to come.

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Limiting Beliefs

What we all love about Law of Attraction, I believe, is that it promises, that we can be, do and have whatever we want. Now who wouldn’t love a promise like that! Even most of the posts in the several Facebook groups I belong to, seem to touch just this very subject. Week after week people are announcing that now they will win the lottery. It’s their time and it feels so right. And yet they don’t.

Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong in winning the lottery. On the contrary I will cheer for every single one who does. What gets me every time, when I read these posts, is, that these people think, that winning the lottery is their only option to get what they want. The Universe has countless avenues to bring us whatever it is that we want and yet they choose to limit themselves to just this one avenue, closing all other doors. What they are in fact saying to the Universe is, that they don’t believe in its ability to fulfill their needs.

I really wouldn’t want to limit the avenues my good comes to me. And yet I know I do with my limiting beliefs. I know I do have them, because I observe, how my good always comes along the same old avenues, through the least resistant way. But at least I am aware, that these beliefs exist. As we become aware of our limiting beliefs we are able to do something about them. But first we have to notice them.

Limiting beliefs are just thoughts we have thought long  enough, that we have begun believe in them, to take them as truth. They limit us and how we are able to accept the good into our lives. Like: the money doesn’t grow in the trees, or we have to work hard for money or that I never win anything. To see, where your limiting beliefs are, you must pay close attention to, how your good comes to you. Like are you able to get extra money only by doing overtime, or do you, say, get unexpected gifts? These avenues tell you exactly, where your limiting beliefs are.

Once we have been able to identify our limiting beliefs, there is a lot that we can do about them. There are a lot of different ways from which to choose, how to tackle the problem. For example we can try to modify affirmations to change that belief. Or we can tap about it, write positive aspects of the situation or do a focus wheel. We can play “wouldn’t it be nice” or “what if” -games about the issue.We can even meditate about it or just try to write a different story about this thing.

In order to shake off those limiting beliefs, I think, we have to first realize, that what we want, every time we want something, is not the actual stuff, but the feeling we associate to this thing. It is always the feeling we want. Now, let’s consider this option: what if we could get the feeling first? Because I believe, that when we have the feeling we are after, the stuff will follow.

For me finding the feeling place is enough. When I feel happy and free, it doesn’t matter anymore, how I got there and do I get the stuff I wanted in the first place. And I have noticed, that when I’m in this feeling place, exciting things begin to happen. There are suddenly new opportunities I couldn’t see before. I meet new people who excite me. And most of all I usually end up with something even better than the original stuff I thought I wanted. But the best part of it all is always the way I feel.

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Purpose of Life

There are many schools about the purpose of life. Some say we are here to make an impact, or to change the world for better, or even to redeem ourselves. Some of us seem to have a clear purpose, a drive that pushes us forward. Some of us just hang around. Some feel, that they are missing out something important in their lives, while others have no feelings of missing out anything, nothing at all.

I have always felt a bit envious of those, who are driven by one clear purpose all their lives. They so seem to have everything figured out. What I myself want out life or find as my truth has changed many times during my life. Therefore I have come to believe, that there isn’t just one thing for everyone of us, that we are meant to do. Instead I believe, that our purpose can also change as we ourselves grow and evolve.  What we are passionate about today might not be the same thing tomorrow. I believe it is OK to have a change of heart.

Abraham-Hicks says, that the purpose of life is to find, what we prefer and focus our energies solely to those things. I agree with this point of view. I think we are here on this planet and in these bodies just to find out what we are capable of and to have fun in discovering that. It doesn’t really matter, what it is we do as long as it makes our heart sing, be it something big or small.

We cannot really change the world or any other person, we can only change ourselves. So just by being an example of leading a happy and content life and just by finding out what one is really capable of, will be enough of change and impact, that we can really hope to make in this world and the lives of others.

I really, truly admire people, who are passionate about just one thing all through their lives. I really, truly admire people, who dream big and who seem to shake the world following their dreams. I myself don’t seem to find anything big to dream about or just one passion or purpose to follow. I just fiddle happily with little things and am content. For me the purpose of life seems just to be content with each passing day without any bigger ambition than that.

If you haven’t yet found your purpose or passions, and feel that you are missing out, or if you are like me and feel, that they can change as time goes by, be easy on yourself. Keep joyfully seeking for them, or happily change them, whenever you feel like it; the main thing, I believe, is to have FUN all along the way! I truly believe, that that has been our intent in the first place anyway. And if you are having fun as you go along, I feel that you have fulfilled your purpose and, believe me, then there’s nothing you have missed out.

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Feeling Worthy

Often we feel inadequate, somehow not enough. We feel that we ought to do more, be more and have more than what we currently are in order to meet the standards. We go to great lengths to fulfill these expectations, that are in fact just our own, for there are no other standards than those we place ourselves.

I, too, have struggled all my life with my feelings of unworthy. I have always felt, that I’m somehow inferior to others and yet there has never been any real cause for me to feel this way. Except perhaps, how I felt about my body. I have never been a physical person and therefore not very happy with my body image. I’ve always thought it should look different, more athletic, firm and tough.

I have done Louise Hay’s Mirror Work on and off. It has, of course, helped me a great deal, but somehow I have still felt inadequate. I still felt guilty doing something I loved alone without sharing it with my loved ones. I still felt I had no right to have pleasures of my own. I still felt shame, how my body looked like. The mirror work has of course laid a great ground work, but it did not resolve the issue itself.

This spring I then came across Erin Stutland and her amazing Shrink Sessions workout program. She has quite a unique way to combine physical exercise and affirmations. And making it fun at the same time! For the first time ever these affirmations came alive in a brand new way for me. It seemed, that moving my body while saying these affirmations made them seem more true to me. For first time in a long, long while (ever since my childhood) I begun to enjoy movement and sports.

My body, like everyone’s body, wants and loves to move. My body, like everyone’s body will, also responded eagerly and willingly to my new self-care. I could see the changes in weeks if not even in days! Suddenly there were muscles to be seen, where there never had been before! My stomach was toning up! Don’t get me wrong, I’m still no athlete, I do only half an hours worth of exercise a day, and I still do have cellulite and sagging pieces, but in spite of all this I have truly begun to love my body unconditionally. I have begun unashamedly to admire any and all progress and change it makes. Even the tiniest, tiniest steps. I have begun to make more healthier choices in general and speak to and about my body more lovingly and admiringly giving it the credit it deserves.

And what you know! The better I begun to feel in my own skin the more worthy I also begun to feel. No more were there feelings of guilt doing things by myself without sharing them with others. No more feelings of inadequacy, in fact what others think has begun to mean nothing to me! No more shame of how my body looks like, on the contrary I feel very proud of it with the cellulite and all. I’m proud of its eagerness to please me.

If you too, like I did, struggle with you feelings of worthiness, I encourage you to try something totally different for a change. Try physical exercise! Go dancing, lift weights, run! Whatever feels good to you! It just might be the secret you have been looking for all through your life. It was for me!

Find out more about Shrink Sessions here http://shrinksessionworkout.com/

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Why LoA is not working

You have done it all: visualization, meditation, affirmations, thinking positively and still you haven’t got, what you want. You begin to wonder, if the whole Law of Attraction thing is just a big hoax or else you should by now have received your heart’s desire with all the work you have put in, right? Or is it just you, that Law of Attraction doesn’t want to co-operate with? It seems like your neighbors, co-workers and even strangers you meet have things better. Why is it, that sometimes it seems like Law of Attraction has stopped working? Whenever this happens, I don’t want any of that bullshit, that something better is waiting. This is what I remind myself instead:

First of all we have to understand that every desire is always two things: the wanted and the lack of it. Sometimes, when we make it our “work” to manifest things into our lives, we are so wrapped up in this work by visualizing, affirming, trying to think positively, that we don’t see at all, that actually we are concentrated on the lack of the very thing we want. For example I have always all through my life as far as I can remember wanted to manifest myself a friend. Something others seem to do easily and naturally. To this day I haven’t succeeded. That is only because by now every time I think of this subject the lack of having one is the main feeling on my mind. So I have decided, that I won’t waste my time trying to force the universe deliver me something, that I am not a match to. Instead I try to be mine own best friend, talk myself nicely and enjoy doing things by myself. That is possible believe it or not!

Secondly it is very easy to fall into the comparison trap. Sadly I feel, that our society even encourages this. Whenever I compare myself to others, I deny my own worth the way I am, I downplay my own talents and sow doubt in my mind about my ability to know, what I want to be, do and have. I belong to several Facebook groups, that have awesome people in them. They seem to be able to manifest anything in their lives effortlessly and quickly: free meals, new exciting jobs, money even. They seem to write more fluently and far more interestingly than me. Whenever I notice, that I am comparing myself with these awesome others, I take a step back and deep breath. I remind myself that this is not a race, we are not rivals here. I remind myself why I do, what I do. That I do it, because it brings me joy, not that others would feel envious. That anyone else’s opinion doesn’t matter in my business.

Thirdly we really should question our motivation more deeply, if manifesting something begins to feel like work. How often we think, that if we don’t have anything and everything we desire nice and quickly, then we are somehow inferior to others. In this case we should question: are we trying to manifest something into our lives to feel better ourselves or just to impress others? Whenever I feel the nagging sense of discontentment of how I am doing, I firmly remind myself of all the progress I have already made, of all the things I have already managed to manifest and even of why I am into this Law of Attraction business in the first place.

For me Law of Attraction means a great way to love myself more, to feel worthy and great no matter what happens. I am not trying to actually manifest anything, if good things flow to my life, it is extra. I’m just trying to enjoy my life to the fullest. I have been in that place, where it is always dark, where all one wishes is the numbness, the lack of pain in any way it can be reached. Therefore I am so very grateful for every single day, that Law of Attraction brings me more insight and more reasons to love and appreciate myself just the way I am and all of the life in general.

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Words We Use

How often does your language support what you want to experience? How often do you speak of what you actually want? How often do you just share everything that you don’t like about in your life? How often do you belittle yourself when someone thanks you by saying: it was nothing?

Words we use have a huge impact in our lives. They seem to give meaning to our experiences, to make them more real so to speak. This is something I have lately been paying a lot of attention to. I have noticed that even when I’m sick I will feel better myself when I’m not complaining about it to everyone around me.

Every time we belittle ourselves, when someone thanks us, makes us feel inadequate, not enough. So in the end it doesn’t matter what we do, we will still feel not enough as our subconscious has learned from our words that whatever we might do is nothing, not enough.

Have you ever wondered how some people seem to get more than their fair share of sickness and misfortune? I have noticed that the people who willingly share their sickness to the details or misfortunes with others and never find anything good to say about anything, often just attract more sickness or other kinds of misfortunes into their lives. And I’m pretty sure that complaining doesn’t make their lives any better either.

Somehow it seems to be more acceptable in our society to complain and tell about our misfortunes than to share our success and dreams. It is like sharing good things makes one somehow less trustworthy in the eyes of others. And somehow complaining even seems to be almost addictive, it sweeps us with it so easily. It truly seems to take an effort to not to join in.

The words we use have a lot weight in our subconscious. Our subconscious doesn’t have a sense of humor. It takes everything we say so very seriously, it believes everything we say to the letter. So no matter how we feel, if the only things we speak about and share with others, are sickness and misfortunes the subconscious will deduce, that these things are the important things in our lives and try to maneuver us into that direction in the future too.

So let’s all pay attention to the words we use. For just one day at least let’s not complain, share any of our misfortunes or use any words that do belittle ourselves. We can choose what we say! I guarantee that in the end of the day we will feel better than we have for years.

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Imagination

We all have been given a precious gift of Imagination. Everything in this world was once just an image, a dream in someone’s thoughts, before they took any action to make it real.

As children we use our imagination every day and every day is a magical adventure for us! We travel to space and different countries and have all kinds of wonderful adventures. How come we lose this ability to make every day special and beautiful? We don’t lose our imagination, we just lose the ability to use it to make us feel better. Instead of imagining what could go right in our lives we mostly just imagine everything that could go wrong!

Imagination is our main way to focus our energy. Imagining and visualization are kind of the same thing, but for me visualization is more the act of concentrating to a specific outcome and imagining is a way to feel better, to explore my interests more deeply and to just enjoy life in general! I have only recently re-found my imagination. It brings so much joy and enthusiasm to my life. It makes even the most tedious chores much more exciting to do!

There just is so much fun in my life when I use my imagination to feel better. For instance lately when I have gone for a walk I have listened to my favorite music (at the moment Duele el Corazon by Enrique Iglesias), I have imagined myself to be a dancer in a party: I have sang aloud in my non-existent Spanish and have jumped, skipped and danced the whole way. When I have come back home I have been all sweaty, warm and ah, so totally happy! Afterwards everything is always feeling so much more interesting! And I mean everything: cooking, vacuuming, washing up the dishes, everything! (Of course I could always use my imagination to make these tedious chores otherwise more fun, but then I would lose a greatly fun outing!)

Even if we stay grounded to the present moment we can use our ability to imagine. Abraham-Hicks says that we should never face reality if it is not to our liking. I am on the same lines here. I would never face reality or a circumstance if there was something there that made me feel bad. And if I absolutely could not avoid it, I would use my imagination to create new more pleasurable meaning to those things. Anything as long as it would make me feel better!

So, go ahead, be more like a kid, have fun and imagine your life better! Be a secret agent or an explorer while commuting to work, Michelin star cook when making family dinner (I have never, ever made so delicious soup as when I imagined this), a celebrated dancer and party away while having a walk or a night home. Have fun and enjoy life! Don’t care what anyone else might think. They probably don’t even notice. And most of those that actually do notice, begin to smile and probably feel happier themselves, too, as I have noticed. Happiness is contagious.

And yes, Enrique, after having the most wonderful 40minute dancing/skipping party with you my feet do hurt, but I also feel like million dollars! Thank you for that!

Listen Duele el corazon here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFutjZEBTXs

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Following one’s bliss

Many teachers and wise people tell us to follow our bliss. But what does that mean? Does it mean that we should just quit the job we hate and dwell on the beach all the time if that happens to please us? Of course it could mean just that, but I believe it means something more. As satisfying as it is to do something I really like I have noticed that my whole life changes into much more fulfilling and rewarding when I find something to like in everything I do.

Like I haven’t always liked my job, but since I got to know the teachings of Abraham-Hicks I have understood that it is very important to like anything and everything one does. Quitting one’s job won’t solve a thing I’m afraid. I have been there. As soon as I grew dissatisfied with my job I’d find another one. It didn’t take me too long to find myself in the same situation again! Only recently have I realized, that anywhere I went I always took myself with me! So any problems I had in my job were following with me everywhere I went because I was always concentrating on the side of it I didn’t like.

I decided to approach the whole thing from a new point of view. At first I thought about what were the specific qualities in a job I would like to have (so NOT what specific job I would like to do, but what were the specific qualities that would give me satisfaction): helping others and making others feel good has always been close to my heart, even from my early childhood when I at the age of three or four gave my new ball to a little crying boy who had lost his toy car, just to make him feel better!  I also like something I call detective work: I like to  search for solutions and find stuff. Seeing what I have achieved and getting feedback was also on my list.

Then I begun to look for any evidence of these specific qualities in my current job. And there they were! I have a chance to serve the customers of my employer. That is really just a way of helping others in their need! I get to do some detective work in trying to find solutions for the clients or searching for their missing data from the data banks. From statistics (as boring as they otherwise are) I get to see what I have achieved and I get really great feedback from the clients when I have managed to help them. So the job I was already doing had all the aspects of my dream job! With this realization I begun to enjoy my work in a brand new way. Somehow it has also made me feel much, much more powerful as just by changing my view on the job I have, I have changed my whole life, well work life at least!

So I have deduced that following one’s bliss doesn’t mean so much that we should just quit altogether doing what we don’t like, but more that we should try to find something to like in everything we decide to do. That is just what I’m going to do from now on. It has really worked wonders for me and it could work for you too!

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