Manic Manifesting

When we first hear about the Law of Attraction, I think we are all enticed by the prospect of getting and having whatever we should want to. “Cool! Now I’m finally gonna win that Lottery!”

I see a lot of people stay hooked on manifesting. They obsessively keep trying to manifest all sorts of things. However Law of Attraction doesn’t respond to our words, or actions. Law of Attraction only responds to our vibration, to whatever we emit from ourselves. And we are only able to vibrate or emit, what we believe is possible in this life.

By trying to manically manifest things into our lives, we will do ourselves more harm than good. So just stop and ask yourself, why on Earth do I want, whatever it is, that I want. Am I trying to impress others, show them how far I have gone, or do I perhaps just want the feeling of security, freedom, or joyfulness? In the end it is always the feeling we are after, not the stuff itself. That is extra.

First of all our beliefs limit profoundly, how we are able to vibrate. We cannot be or have anything, we think is impossible for us, or in general. Our beliefs are a big stumbling block, and we don’t even notice them at times. EFT or Tapping is an easy way to show us our limiting beliefs and gently remove them. (see my post on 22nd June, 2016 on EFT in http://www.merjasuomela.wordpress.com/2016/06 (second one when scrolling down))

Secondly everything in this Universe is two things: the wanted and the lack of it. It is possible, that we focus on the things we want the wrong way around. If we are more focused on the lack, Law of Attraction will match us up with more lack. To find out which side we are more focused on, we have to pay close attention to how we feel, when we think, visualize and talk about the things we want. Lack makes us always feel bad, or constricted, as allowing on the other hand makes us feel good, eager, happy, or joyful even.

Thirdly we can limit Law of Attraction all by ourselves. By thinking and visualizing, that the only way, we can have for example extra money, is the lottery, we are in fact limiting our options of getting it. We are shutting countless doors, by which our extra money could come to us.

In the end, if we feel that particular feeling we are after, does it really matter, how it came? If it came that specific way we ourselves wanted it to come, or some other possible way?

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Negative Feelings

Life consists of ordinary days: some of which are good and some of which are not. There will be things, that will make us happy and over the moon. Then there will be others we could simply do without. We don’t get to choose, which ones we are going to have, we only get to choose, how to react to them. There is ebb and flow in life and also in our days.

We are not always at our best. We are also allowed to be vulnerable, powerless, at loss, or even sad and unhappy at times. There is no shame in that. That is called full human life. There is no shame even in crying, when we feel like it. Because how would we know, when we are happy, if we never were unhappy.

Bottling up these bad feelings and pretending to be happy, when we are not, makes our whole body suffer the consequences. Our bodies never lie to us. They show us exactly, how we feel minute to minute. These bottled up feelings tend to cause resistance, that shows itself as tension and stress in our bodies, and in the end even as aches and pains and disease.

It is much more proactive to admit to ourselves, what our true feelings are. Then try to find a way to release them: cry, if you feel like it, shout in the shower, beat your pillow, or go for a walk or a run. Nature has many healing qualities, so a walk/run in the forest can solve and calm many of our feelings.

When things happen, that are not to your liking, remember, that you are not a bad person, if you have negative feelings about them. Just admit your feelings, find a proactive way to release them, and move on.

There is plenty of good in everything and in every day. So if you can’t find the silver lining in what you are living at the moment, concentrate on the good things, that you can find, that are in your life. Enjoy, whatever you can.

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Plant a Tree

Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree. I really like this quote by Martin Luther. It seems to sum up everything, that I believe. That happiness is found in enjoying the moment. Even if I knew I was not here tomorrow, I would still do today something I believed in and liked.

Our attitude has everything to do, how we experience life. We can see life as a hard journey from one misery to another, or we can concentrate on the positive side of things. Everything, and I mean everything, has a positive side. Even the most terrible things, that could ever happen to us, have something positive in them, if we just choose to notice it.

The most terrible things tend to let us see, how good our lives have been before. And how little we valued those good times. They tend to give a halo of extraordinary to little every day things. We don’t so very often see these things as blessings. For example do you appreciate doing the dishes? Laundry? Vacuuming? We don’t let these things make us happy. Only when these things are taken away from us, we begin to appreciate them in a very different way.

We also tend to postpone our happiness until some condition is fulfilled. I will be happy, when I lose weight, or when I get enough money, or when something else happens. When we postpone happiness, we are in fact saying, that this very moment, Right Now, is not enough. That this very moment is somehow flawed. This precise moment is all we have. This, Right Now, is when Life happens. Your life and mine. It is perfect as it is.

We cannot decide over or control everything, that happens in this life. Things will happen to us, that we don’t like about or wouldn’t want to happen. We can only decide, how we react to them. We can only enjoy this very moment we have right now and be happy about it. No-one knows about the future. There are no guarantees of the next moment. This very moment is all there ever is. So if everything is good Right Now Right Here, enjoy it fully. And if not, make sure you make most of this very moment. It is all, that you have.

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Life is Happening Right Now

When was the last time you appreciated the bowl your meal was served in? The roundness and generosity of it. The practicality and weight of it. The form, color and material. Being in the present moment is easier said than done. Our minds just won’t stand still, take in the moment and appreciate the minute details of it.

This moment right now, right here is actually the only moment we truly have in our lives. Our minds often make it seem the otherwise though. We go on planning tomorrow, or lunch break, or even just the next conversation, that we’re going to have. And planning the future, that might or might not come, is not the only thing we do. Instead of leaving the old stuff to yesterday, where it belongs, we often mull over it. We go on the same old stuff over and over again in our minds, like a broken record.

Living in the present moment is a hard thing to do in this fast time and space, that we are living. But it is the only time we actually get to have. I have lately done a lot of grounding work to be in the moment. Every time I catch myself thinking ahead, I bring myself back to this moment. I love, how Nancy Levin put it. That whatever she was doing was the most important thing. Nothing else needed to be done at that precise moment.

That is how I have been reminding myself too. I am writing now. I am walking now. Now I do the dishes. Reminding myself, that whatever I am doing, it is worth to be here and now, and enjoyed. Ordinary things and events have begun to feel like one of kind type of things. And come to think of it, though it seems we are doing the same kinds of stuff over and over again, they are different each time. The laundry isn’t exactly the same, the dishes, the walks, the conversations. They are all different every time.

So from my own experience I can recommend to find the moment at hand. To enjoy and wonder the minute details of it, that are never the same. That way our moments will gain more dignity and appreciation. And life will never be the same again.

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Everything is a Mirror

Everything and everyone in this universe mirrors our beliefs back to us. Whatever we believe, we will find in this world. So if we believe, that all youths are lazy, they will rise up to meet that expectation. On the other hand if we believe, that we will meet only kind and friendly people wherever we go, that too will be our experience.

Many teachers have recently  written about this phenomenon. It is like all the people are shards of a mirror, mirroring back whatever we show them. This goes to ourselves, too. Haven’t we all one time or another wondered, why on Earth did we behave the way we did? When we don’t pay close attention on to how we ourselves want to feel, we will more easily just be reflecting something back.

I have noticed, that when I, myself, am annoyed and irritated, other people seem to be like that too. On the other hand if I’m happy and easy, I meet people, who are similar. When I hold certain expectations to certain people, they will rise to occasion and meet those expectations, be they good or bad ones. Sometimes people just mirror back to us, what we need to know about ourselves.

So that annoying relative is just mirroring back to you the annoyance you feel towards one of your own habits (usually the one, that annoys you so much). (Sometimes you just expect them to be annoying and they are fulfilling that request every time so perfectly.) But also that wonderful customer service person is just mirroring back to you your own kindness and expertise. When we start to notice this thing for what it is, it is easy to turn it around.

By acknowledging without judging the habits in ourselves we dislike, we make it possible to release them, to change them. But first we just have to notice them. When we expect our relatives to be less annoying they surprise us pleasantly. And whenever you see someone acting exceptionally well, give them the credit by all means, but take also some yourself. You wouldn’t witness that behavior, if it wasn’t part of you also!

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About Complaining

For sometime ago I listened to a couple of women, who seemed to be saying only positive things, but were in fact complaining about everything. I have noticed, that much of the interaction in our society seems to be based on complaining. The more we complain, the more eager ears we have. I have often wondered, why it so easy to concentrate on things, that don’t work the way we want them to, instead of those, that do.

Complaining is just comparing in other clothes. When we complain, we are in fact just comparing something to the image we hold in our minds of how we think it should be. Things are as they are, and by complaining about them we are just holding ourselves on the negative side of life.

Complaining will keep our focus on things, that don’t work the way we would want them to. And what we focus on, we will have more of. Complaining will eventually diminish all the good  things in our lives by making them feel smaller and less. Complaining will make us ungrateful.

I myself don’t see any point in wallowing in all the negative things, that may or may not happen on this Earth. Concentrating solely on the bad stuff, that happened or might have happened somewhere else on the planet, and that has no bearing or connection whatsoever on me, will not make me feel good. It will not make me feel secure. And my first priority to myself is to feel good and secure.

I believe, it would be wise to more often think about, what is our motivation, when we share something.  Are we just doing the popular thing and participating in something we don’t ourselves believe in, and that makes us feel bad, or are we sharing the words of kindness and encouragement to each other? At least I will in the future focus even more determinately on what I will say.

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About Vibration

I love Law of Attraction, as it gives me the power. The power to choose whatever life experience I want to. I guess we all love LoA for the same reason. But I really have to stress here, that according to it, we do not get, what we want. We get, what we are.

This is a vibrational Universe and we are vibrational beings emitting a mix of vibrations all the time. There is never just one thing we want, there are many. Therefore a mix of vibrations. And Law of Attraction always matches us up with whatever vibration we are emitting at any given time. We can want something so bad, but if we are no match to it, we don’t get it. Whatever we are getting, we are already being.

How to know then, what we emit and what comes to us? Our feelings are messengers bringing us information about what our vibration is. They are delivering us a status report, giving us vital information of where we stand. They are not good or bad in their own right, they are just messages. The more closely we listen to them, the more we get the message they bring.

So if I am feeling blue and down, it is just a status report, that, what will come, will perhaps not be of my highest good. If I am on the other hand feeling eager and joyful, it just states, that I am on the right path towards my desires. Therefore it pays to find the good-feeling things and thoughts of any given situation.

I try to be very particular, what I choose to focus on, and what my vibration therefore is. And this has caused me to firmly believe, that Life is always working out for me! We are all capable of focusing on whatever we want to. Whatever we focus on, we will emit vibration of and get more of. When we choose to focus only on good-feeling things and thoughts, Law of Attraction will match us up with more similar things. And suddenly Life seems to always work in our favor.

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Secret Friends

Every day we meet new people both in real life and in social media. With some we click immediately. Some seem a little off, but they don’t bother us that much. And then there are those, who absolutely ruffle our feathers the wrong way. Oh, yeah.

Abraham-Hicks says, that we can only meet with people, who are on the same vibrational plane as we ourselves are. So as I see it: it shouldn’t even be possible for me to meet these people, as they seem to be on a completely different vibrational plane than me. And yet meet we do.

I have come to think, that maybe I’m looking this from a wrong angle altogether. Mary Morrissey tells a story, how Dalai Lama calls his adversaries his secret friends. Friends are people, who bring out the best of us, who make us grow as human beings. Therefore I have come to believe, that these people are in fact my secret friends.

Without these people I would not be the person I am. Annoying as they are, these people challenge me and things I believe I know. They teach me patience and tolerance. They teach me things about myself, that even I didn’t know existed. They really force me to grow as a human being.

We all have these secret friends. Next time they bring their bitter gifts to you, instead of cursing them and answering with fire to fire, try to thank them in your mind for the gift of knowledge they offer to you. Try to see them as they are: friends, who demand you to be patient and tolerant, and to grow to be a better you.

I most certainly am grateful for all the friends I have: those, who encourage me and agree with me, and most of all those secret ones, who annoy me and disagree with me. For I know, that they are the ones, who really challenge me to evolve and, in the end of the day, truly challenge me to be a better human being.

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Heart Finders

We all are life expressing itself. We all are therefore loved and blessed beings. There are more things going our way than other way around, if we just pause to notice them. But our minds are wired to keep us safe and to avoid pain at any cost, and because of that they are keen to notice anything, that could be hazardous or painful to us. Still we have to power to focus our minds on anything we want. Whatever we focus on, we see more evidence of.

We can choose to see things, that are threatening and scary. When we focus on these things, we will feel unsafe and unloved. And our focus will cause us to see more and more of these kinds of things. Or we can choose to not scare ourselves and convince our minds, that we live in a friendly universe. And our focus will make us notice more and more evidence of this.

I stopped scaring myself a couple of years ago. I mostly don’t listen or watch any news at all. I believe, that whatever I need to know, will be revealed to me, as has been happening so far. I rather not discuss about illness or misfortunes, not my own or anyone else’s. I rather concentrate on what is good in life. I rather hear, what great things have happened to you! And rejoice with you. For a long time I have also tried to wholly and completely quit complaining and little by little I am succeeding in that too.

For sometime now I have been seeing these hearts everywhere. There are hearts in clouds and on the foam in a car wash. There are hearts in my soup and on coffee stains. I believe this is the way Universe is trying to tell me, that I’m on the right track. That I am beloved and blessed being, like we all are. And every time I see heart I answer back: Thank you, Universe! I love you, too!

Lets be heart finders together, for there are hearts to be found for you, too. Life and Universe are all the time trying to tell you how amazing and loved you are, should you just notice it. Slow down, take time to see how incredibly lucky you are by just being alive. Let life love you! And see how many hearts you can find!

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About Contrast

There’s contrast (unwanted things) everywhere. Contrast allows us to know ourselves better and to know what we prefer. We cannot truly know that, if we don’t know the opposite of it first. How would we know ourselves as abundant, if we didn’t know, what being poor meant; how would we know, that we are good, if there was no evil anywhere for comparison. These are just the opposite ends of the same stick. We just have to stop demonizing, that which we don’t like, and simply start choosing, that which we prefer.

Things are always working for us no matter how much contrast there is around us. I have lately been reminding myself just this. There have been some unwanted things in my life to clarify my preferences. Here’s a couple of examples:

First I thought, that I had bought something, that I already had gotten for free. The thought occurred to me at night (as these kinds of thoughts often do). I decided to push my pause-button and told this fear thought, that I would address it sometime in the near future, but not that night. In the mean time I reminded myself, that things are always working out for me. On closer inspection it turned out to be a false thought after all. I learned, that I prefer to be sure before I buy something, that I don’t already have it.

The locker room door to the ladies’ changing room was locked. It was reserved to a group, that was coming later. The only free-of-charge lockers are in that particular locker room. The cashier told, that there would be some lockers left by the bowling alley. So I would have to change in the other locker room and then go back to the bowling alley to place my stuff in one of these lockers. But these lockers require a 50cent token. I reminded myself, that there must be some good in this, as things are always working out for me. So I chose a locker and stuffed my things in it and was just about to find a token, when I realized, that someone had forgotten (or left on purpose) their token in the lock. And it was the only locker with a token! I noticed, that I appreciate these random acts of kindness.

I ordered something, that didn’t arrive. As I eagerly waited for my purchase to arrive, I at the same time patiently reminded myself yet again, that things are always working out for my benefit. Finally I called in and politely told them, what had happened and they immediately promised to send me a new product and promised, that I could even keep the original order free of charge, should it still arrive! I found out, that I preferred being kind and patient over the anger and frustration, that I could have felt in this situation.

We cannot avoid unwanted things happening in our lives, we can only choose, how to react to them. How we react is totally up to us and no-one else. We can get all upset, stress out and lose even sleep over things, or we can concentrate on trusting, that things are always turning out to our best benefit. So next time something unwanted is happening in your life, trust the universe, trust your own resourcefulness to carry you through. Remind yourself, that things are always working out for you! Cause they are!

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